It might be too short, but I had a friend read Heaven/Haven, by Gerard Manley Hopkins (1918) at my husband's funeral when he died of cancer. It 's about death as respite, which was an important theme to me, and despite the title it isn't very religious. Also I find a lot of the Victorian poems about death to be a bit… » 10/19/14 8:00pm Yesterday 8:00pm

Thank you so much for this! I think it's something that's not talked about a lot when people discuss widowhood. Maybe the expectation is that we're all nuns? But I know exactly what you mean. For months I really did believe I'd never have sex again and then next thing I knew I needed sex. Sweaty, crazy sex with an… » 10/19/14 3:20pm Yesterday 3:20pm

I love this suggestion and I wish I had seen it when my mom was caring for my grandmother - she never really had a break and I think this would have given her some much-needed boundaries (my grandmother was extremely demanding and even the nurses wouldn't deal with her by the end). My mom would still have visited my… » 10/19/14 10:04am Yesterday 10:04am

Holeeee shit, that piece is unbelievable!! She called Nev Schulman? And a doctor? Jesus. Yeah, there's definitely a problem with Mean Girl book reviewers on Goodreads, but this author has some serious issues (though I do slightly wonder whether some of that craziness was intensified by the promise of being able to… » 10/18/14 2:00pm Saturday 2:00pm

I feel like I'm the same. I'm not normally hungry until mid-morning (10:30 or 11am) and I think my circadian rhythm revolves around that. I could happily eat my evening meal at 8 or 9pm and go to bed at 2 or 3 am, get up at 10am and start my day on that schedule. » 10/18/14 8:12am Saturday 8:12am

I totally agree that Rory's ending was a little too good for her. Rory was smart and personable but she never really seemed to have the drive she needed to achieve her dreams. I mean, there were phases where she worked hard - when she was falling behind at Chilton and when she was catching up at Yale - but her default… » 10/17/14 12:41pm Friday 12:41pm

I don't have this model but I do have a Lumie light alarm that does this - the light starts 30, 60 or 90 minutes before I get up depending on my preference. I usually wake up about 5-10 minutes before the alarm goes off. I absolutely love it, and it's essential in Scotland where I live. (Also, the controls are hard to… » 10/16/14 9:58am Thursday 9:58am

I'm so with you on this - the first few times it absolutely does feel awesome, but then it just goes back to normal. I use a trimmer now because it's easier, cheaper, no ingrown hairs, etc - but if I could grow a decent, non-patchy bush I totally would! » 10/16/14 7:48am Thursday 7:48am

I'm with Brigitte - I love all of these posts (I'm late to the game and catching up) but this is my favourite bit so far. I really struggled with perfectionism and anxiety in my youth (hell, I still do) and it can be such a struggle when everything seems hits you that bit harder than everyone else. It's absolutely… » 10/14/14 1:37pm Tuesday 1:37pm

You can ask whatever you like - but no matter what your intentions are, you are not entitled to someone else's time or a polite reply. Women get all kinds of guys pretending to be interested in what we're wearing/doing/reading when what they really want is sex, so don't be surprised if we treat you distrustfully. » 10/14/14 12:29pm Tuesday 12:29pm

I haven't been that into QC for awhile now (and I have to admit, I groaned inwardly when the interns were introduced) but this storyline has piqued my interest again. I'm looking forward to seeing where it goes! Claire has really grown on me. » 10/08/14 9:03am 10/08/14 9:03am

I like this (and the 52/17 split mentioned in the other linked article) because I think these are more realistic time splits for the kind of work I do, which usually requires pretty intense mental focus. The usual pomodoro of 25 minutes is never enough time, but if I work straight without breaks I burn out easily. » 10/06/14 5:09am 10/06/14 5:09am